I’m not going to talk about how Lloyd Dobler is one of the greatest movie characters of all time, its wonderful comedic timing, how it has one of the greatest single scenes involving “guys” ever, or how the love story between Diane and Lloyd is endlessly intoxicating. If you’ve seen Say Anything, you already know this. Out of all the things Say Anything does perfectly, I the way find it explores loss, coping with loss, and how it informs our actions endlessly fascinating.
I know it’s not the sexiest of subjects and can be downright depressing, but I can say that in all the thousands of movies I’ve seen in my lifetime, none of them quite deal with loss the way Say Anything does. Cameron Crowe, who both wrote and directed Say Anything, sneaks this theme into the movie to the point that the first couple times I watched it, I completely missed it.
Lloyd’s best friend Corey and how she deals with loss is so all-consuming that it becomes her character. Corey’s ex’s name is Joe. We know this because very early on, everything she talks about somehow circles back to Joe. Her obsession with Joe culminates by slapping us in the face with this theme as both Lloyd and Corey, on separate occasions, bring up how she has written 65 songs, all about Joe. What’s important about the Corey and Joe’s storyline is that Cameron Crowe dangles something that is very obvious in the way Corey is coping with the loss of a relationship, but in a subtle way shows us that sometimes the way we cope doesn’t always work (a theme that comes back later in the movie). We see it vividly in a scene where Corey is confronted by Joe, who gets a sick joy in toying with her. All the songs, all the self affirmations, and within seconds, Corey melts when he approaches her. The beautiful thing about what seems to be a throwaway side plot with Corey is how she becomes the success story to grieving. She beat it, she moved on, in the same way Lloyd tries to later.
These small subplots are all just setting us up for the story between Lloyd, Diane and Diane’s father, James Court. It seems creepy to say it like that, but what has always made this story so unique to me is how it is sold as a “boy meets girl” movie, it’s really more of a “love triangle.” One of the things that brings Diane and Lloyd together is their fear of the future, Diane’s fear of not living up to expectations, and Lloyd's fear of having to deal with it. Watching the two of them fall in love on screen is so intoxicating and is the part of the movie that brings me back to it time after time. What gets lost a lot of the time, though, is Diane’s relationship with her father. As we get to know Diane, we realize that she isn’t your normal high school student; she’s driven, but never really got to experience high school. Her best friend is her father, whom she chosen to live with after the divorce of her parents. Things quickly start to fall apart for Diane and Lloyd mostly because of Diane’s father. Her father is caught embezzling money from the people at the retirement home he owns, and as his crimes unfold, he convinces Diane to break-up with Lloyd.
Then there is Diane. Diane is the smartest and most aware character through most of the movie, and when pushed by her father to end the relationship with Lloyd, she makes the logical choice of choosing her father. It’s not easy for her. One of my favorite scenes is of Diane talking to her father as the phone rings and saying “If I pick up, we will only get back together.” This is a girl who has always used logic in thinking through every decision in her life, and is not sure how to navigate emotion. Diane’s coping mechanism is logic. When things start to fall apart with Lloyd and with her dad, she rationalizes it, fights off emotion and moves forward.
All the previous moments eventually lead to the confrontation of James and Lloyd in prison. Now in jail, James and Lloyd have a conversation, and, after finding out Lloyd is going to England with Diane, James hurls insults. They cut deep and go right after Lloyd’s own esteem issues. It's at this point where everything Lloyd has gone though pays off. Rather than yelling back at James, Lloyd realizes what he and James have in common, and that’s Diane. It’s never spoken, and you see Lloyd take a deep breath to control his temper and remembers what it’s like to lose Diane and how the most frustrating part was that she shut him out. He quietly stands up and gives James a letter Diane wrote for him, trying in any way he can to comfort James. It’s such an amazing, often overlooked moment that shows us exactly the type of person Lloyd is. In giving him this letter, we also see again how Diane deals with loss. She is crushed by losing the relationship and trust she had in her father and logically explains away her anger in a letter to her father. Diane also remembers how she dealt with the relationship with Lloyd and chooses to not make the same decisions, eventually coming in to see her father.
John Mahoney was a fixture in my town and we miss him. Such a nice, if reserved man, who would pass the time and give you a proper good evening as he was sitting outside of Phil's. A really, really nice guy and I'm very happy a couple of years ago I had the courage to tell him how much his work in Say Anything meant to me.ReplyDelete
This is a great article Adam! I have to see this again. The first time I saw it I remembered being in awe of the amount I could see there was to unravel beyond the wonderful romance.ReplyDelete